Mother's Love is the best

It is a god gift for us. You know most of human beings are surviving without mother’s love in entire worldwide. Mother’s love shapes cultures and individuals. While most mothers know that their love and emotional availability are vital to their children's well-being,  many of us do not understand the profound and long lasting impact we have in developing our young children's brains, teaching them first lessons of love, shaping their consciences .At a time when society urges women to seek their worth and personal fulfillment in things that take them away from their families and intimate bonds, Hunter invites women to come home to their children, their best selves, their hearts.

You and I need to be willing to look inside our own experiences to identify any places we may still be affected by our relationship with our own mother. We can begin that journey by simply being willing to search our heart and better understand ourselves. Professional counseling may also be a valuable part of that process. Laura Ingalls Wilder said, "What is there in the attitude of your children toward yourself that you wish were different"? Search your own heart and learn if your ways toward your own mother could be improved. “This is important whether your mother is still living or not”. I and You are deeply affected by our relationship with our mother and one of the most powerful gifts we can give to our children is our own emotional health.

A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother's love. This will leave a void in their heart all of their life. A mother's love needs to be given unconditionally to establish trust and a firm foundation of emotional intimacy in a child's life. If love is withheld, a child will look for it in a million other ways, sometimes throughout their lifetime unless they come to some sort of peace with their past. The emotional foundation we give our children at home is foundation to their life. We cannot underestimate the value of home and the power of mother love. God asks us to be intentional about. We cannot underestimate the power of mother love, the value of home and the significance of our intentional presence in the home.

It is a scarcity , so we are lucky people who are getting mother’s affection and infinitive words for saying mother’s love which will be a nature gift as long as we die.

Mango's aspiration was emotion...

When I was in grade 10, I had some few of awesome friends with me. Next to our school there was a big house and it owned to an old uncle. There was a huge mango tree & it always had mangoes. But he never gave us the permission to pick mangoes, even he can't eat them all at once.

One of my friend said we will cut a joke to him because he do not give us mangoes. After school we went to his house. As soon as we rang the calling-bell, we have run away. Little while latter the man opened the door. There were no one in the front & he went back into the house. We did it again and we ran to our houses.

Next day also after school we did like that. we are hoped that we had been doing the same cruel activities next to 5 days, furthermore we were trying to do the same action 6th day also in the same time, but when we went to his house, one of the his guest were moving to his door steps.We were hidden ourselves near to the bush. Suddenly the door opened and a bucket of water was put in the guest's body, because owner were hiding corner of the inside of the door. The guest was got angry and he went away. We surprised and we also have run back to our houses.

The day after next we heart that guest was that uncle's best friend and he is the only one who look after him as a his own brother. We were disappointed and we decided to meet his friend and talk about this incident. 

We found his friend's home and he warmly welcomed us. We told him to the full incident. He is very interesting person who told us to come with me to see my friend. At the first sight we scared to go there, but he said that he will be able to manage his friend. We spent there more than one hour and next day we and his friend went to his home.

He said that as soon as we ring the bell, we will hide near to the bush. likewise we did. He came out and looked around then we all stand and went to his door step. It was a miracles he welcomed all of us warmly. He understood the incident and he began to laugh. Very firstly we saw his smile.

He told us to come often and take anything from here as your wish as mango with laughing again. He gave us mangoes. We thanked to him and came back. It is an unforgettable incident that ever happened to me in my lifetime before and after. Since then we were become as good friends. But unfortunately he died after few years. Still also I can remember his adorable smile.

The Art of Music

Music is a full of  my hobby. Even if i am in the lecturing sometimes makes me to feel boring, music will call me. Generally it will make you reduce annoying and irritating. When you listen to music, much more is happening in your body than simple auditory processing. Music triggers activity in the nucleus, a part of your brain that releases the feel good. Music may, in other words, tap into a brain mechanism that was the key to our evolutionary progress. The ability to recognize patterns and generalize from experience, to predict what’s likely to happen in the future in short, the ability to imagine is something humans do far better than any other animals. 

Many people instinctively don a headset linked to their favorite music when hitting the gym, which makes sense since certain types of music can motivate you to run faster, or keep going even though you're fatigued, giving you a better workout. Additionally, research has shown that listening to music while exercising boosted cognitive levels and verbal fluency skills in people diagnosed with coronary artery disease (coronary artery disease has been linked to a decline in cognitive abilities). Signs of improvement in verbal fluency areas more than doubled after listening to music compared to that of the non-music session.

Listening to music while exercising can also improve your performance, increasing your endurance by 15 percent, and your movement will likely follow the tempo of the song. For instance, in one study when the music's tempo slowed, the subjects' exertion level reduced as well. And when the tempo was increased, their performance followed suit. Your body may be simply responding to the beat on a more or less subconscious level, but the type and tempo of the music you choose while working out may also influence your conscious motivation.

When a song gets you energized and rearing to go, you'll know it, and these are the types of songs you probably naturally add to your workout playlist.  For that matter, when a song makes you feel relaxed, eases your anxiety or pain levels, or boosts your mood, you’ll know it too, as selecting music is a highly personal and highly intuitive process. In other words, only you know the “best” music for you, and that will inevitably change not only day to day with your mood but also over time with the different chapters of your life.

For now, technology has given us a simple way to harness the power of music by allowing you to create different playlists for exercising, relaxing, working and other important aspects of your day so you can instantly access the right music for your mood or activity. You can also listen to music over Internet radio using free services like Pandora, which will actually create stations for you based on your musical tastes.

Green Building

Green building are refers to both a structure and the using of processes that are environmentally responsible and resource-efficient throughout a building's life-cycle: from sitting to design, construction, operation, maintenance, renovation, and demolition.

 According the above definition we can say these kinds of buildings are more eco friendly & sustainable or ‘high performance’ building than other buildings. Green building is a holistic concept that starts with the understanding that the built environment can have profound effects, both positive and negative, on the natural environment, as well as the people who inhabit buildings every day. Green building is an effort to amplify the positive and mitigate the negative of these effects throughout the entire life cycle of a building.

While there are many different definitions of green building out there, it is generally accepted as the planning, design, construction, and operations of buildings with several central, foremost considerations: energy use, water use, indoor environmental quality, material section and the building's effects on its site.

·         Material efficiency

Material should be use that can be recycled and can generate surplus amount of energy. An example of this is solar power panels not only they provide lightening but they are also a useful energy source

·         Waste & Reduction

It is probable to reuse resources. What may be waste to us may have another benefit to something else.

·         Structure efficiency

It is the concept of sustainable building and has largest impact on cost and performance. It aims to minimize the environment impact associated with all life cycles.

·         Energy efficiency

The layout of the construction can be strategized so that natural light pours for additional warmth

Shading the roof with trees offers an eco friendly alternative to air conditioning.

·         Water efficiency

To minimize water consumption one should aim to use the water which has been collected, used purified and reused.

Present we are facing lots of environmental issues under this situation green building concept will help us to heal the world make it a better place for me and for you and for the entire human being. As well as I think planners will be going up through green city and building concept soon. 

Mind Power makes successful attitude

The mind plays an important role in achieving every success and goal, minor, everyday goals, or major goals. With minor, day-to-day goals, you know what you want to achieve, but when it comes to major goals, it is different. You might have a vague idea, but this is not enough.

To accomplish anything, and to use your mind power, you have to know exactly what it is you want to do. In order to focus your mind on a goal, you need a clear and well defined your objective. First, you have to think and find out what is it that you really want to accomplish or gain. This might not be a simple step, and requires deep thinking, investigation and time. After discovering what you really want to accomplish, you need to come up with a plan for action. You need to know what you have to do first, and how to proceed. All of this requires planning, which means using the power of the mind.

After deciding on a goal and coming up with a plan, you need to hold in your mind a clear mental image of your goal. You need to see it accomplished. This step requires that you use your imagination, which is another power of the mind. Not everyone can visualize clear mental images, but regular training of the imagination can do wonders. You may, for example, look at photos of what you want to achieve, and then close your eyes, and try to see it in your imagination. This will enhance your visualization ability.

You need to be able to transmit your thoughts to other people, who would aid you with your plans. Often, you have to persuade others to invest in your plans or to help you in other ways. You need to be enthusiastic, persuasive, and believe what you are saying, otherwise they won't listen and won't care. To be able to do so, you need some degree of concentration, the ability to visualize, tact and patience, all being mental skills. Motivation is another mental and emotional power that you require for achieving success. 

How can you achieve anything if you are not motivated enough? To increase your motivation and enthusiasm, think often of your goal, about its advantages and benefits, and how it will change your life. Doing so, will strengthen your motivation.

Your thoughts, which are part of your mind, possess power. The thoughts that you most often think tend to come true. If you pour your mental energy into the same thoughts or mental images day after day, they will become stronger and stronger, and would consequently, affect your attitude, expectations, behavior and actions.These thoughts and mental images can even be subconsciously perceived by other people, who would then offer you help or opportunities.Your thoughts can also create what is usually termed as coincidence. They can attract into your life corresponding events, situations and opportunities. Not every thought turns into reality. A thought has to be repeated often, and to be saturated with desire, in order to come true. Doubts, fears, and worries, tend to destroy what you build with the power of your mind. This means that you need to clear your mind of negative thoughts and doubts. 

Effective Listening

"We were given two ears but only one mouth, because listening is twice as hard as talking."

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are listening to your spouse or colleague relate something that is extremely important to them?

While they are speaking, something comes to mind and you cannot wait for them to finish so you can tell your story. This is the point where you can still hear them, but you are no longer listening.

If you’re like many people and have not completed significant training in active listening, then what you are doing much of the time is ‘hearing,’ not listening. Active listening is a very specific set of techniques that do not just happen automatically. You must learn, train and practice the techniques to achieve competency in active listening.

To listen actively is to first of all listen without deciding or judging about what you hear. Active listening is the process of temporarily setting your world aside and concentrating on the other person’s message and meaning. Evaluations, decisions and reactions can come late

There are three basic listening

1.  Competitive or Combative Listening :-Happens when we are more interested in promoting our own point of view than in understanding or exploring someone else’s view. We either listen for openings to take the floor, or for flaws or weak points we can attack. As we pretend to pay attention we are impatiently waiting for an opening, or internally formulating our rebuttal and planning our devastating comeback that will destroy their argument and make us the victor.

2.  In Passive or Attentive Listening :-

we are genuinely interested in hearing and understanding the other person’s point of view. We are attentive and passively listen. We assume that we heard and understand correctly. but stay passive and do not verify it.

3.  Active or Reflective Listening :-
It is the single most useful and important listening skill. In active listening we are also genuinely interested in understanding what the other person is thinking, feeling, wanting or what the message means, and we are active in checking out our understanding before we respond with our own new message. We restate or paraphrase our understanding of their message and reflect it back to the sender for verification. This verification or feedback process is what distinguishes active listening and makes it effective.

As a listener we attend to the level that we think is most important. Failing to recognize the level most relevant and important to the speaker can lead to a kind of crossed wires where the two people are not on the same wavelength. The purpose of the contact and the nature of our relationship with the person will usually determine what level or levels are appropriate and important for the particular interaction.

Disabled people are differently abled

Today, in addition to focusing on the problem of people who are differently abled,  researches are also concerning on the problem of people faced by disabled women, who are  perceived to be doubly disadvantages: first as women secondly as disabled.

In Sri Lanka, people tend to either ignore people with disabilities or to make a big fuss  about them, leading to immense embarrassment for sensitive people. We should aim to  make life for with disabilities. To be singled out in society for being disabled is a form of  discrimination which should be discouraged.

Another aspect of disabilities in the Sri Lankan context, is the plight of the disabled soldiers. They are war heroes at the one level, but in terms of daily life, our society is not geared to look after the disabled. For example public buildings in Sri Lanka rarely have wheelchair access, unlike in developed countries where facilities for disabled are legally enforced in public buildings. Just as assume that they know what women want, so the non-disabled assume that they know what disabled people want.

Worldwide, men and women with disabilities have relatively better life changes today than  a decade or more age. For one thing disabilities has come out into the open. Disable person  have fought the practice of incarceration in residential homes and hospital, a ‘treatment ’which was legitimate. There is sense among the abled-bodied that disabled people need their  protection. Concern with the welfare of disabled people is seen ‘charitable’. Yet these  breakthroughs can only be partially attributed to be a change of heart on the part of the  able-bodied decision makers at national and international level. Achievements and successes  in advocacy work on disability can be attributed in large measure to the efforts and perseverance of group of disabled people. 

However people’s attitudes towards the disabled have been slow in changing. Because of the general discrimination meted out towards the disabled, the message from non-disabled world, towards the disabled is that the lives of the disabled persons are not worth living. Both men and women with disabilities are made to feel ‘different’. They fail to confirm to a traditionally and socially agreed norm of beauty and strength. Pity condescension, embarrassment, or a mixture of the three are the reactions most commonly encountered by men and women who have a disability, from non-disabled people. Many activists believe that disabled people are in some senses considered by able-bodied people to be less than human.